Tamsin Flowers, Jade A. Waters and I are ringing in the New Year with the latest Pillow Talk Secrets session. This time, Tamsin took advantage of the reflective nature of the holiday to ask Jade and I for our thoughts on 2014 and our hopes for the new year. Of course, we turned the tables on her and made her share too!
Below, you’ll find an excerpt from the conversation. Just click the link that follows to read the whole thing on the Pillow Talk blog. We’d love to hear your reflections on the year that’s passed, and goals for 2015, so please feel free to leave a note in the comments. We love it when you do. And now, without further ado, I give you the first Pillow Talk Secrets session of 2015!
PILLOW TALK SECRETS
Tamsin: Hello ladies. How are you both doing today?
Malin: So good! How are you Tamsin? Jade?
Jade: Great! So nice to be here with you both.
J: Yes, Happy New Year! *Blows party whistles* *Throws confetti*
M: I love the New Year – it always feels good to start fresh. *removes confetti from hair* 😉
T: It is great to have a fresh start. Now, let’s get going on today’s business – our look back over 2014 and our look forward over 2015. I’ve got a few questions to put to you two – starting with what was the most surprising thing writing erotica taught you about yourselves last year?
M: Oh boy.. Well, I think the biggest thing it taught me was that I’m far more comfortable with myself sexually now than I’ve ever been. I don’t seem to have the hang-ups that plagued me as a younger, non-erotica writing woman.
J: It certainly does have that effect, doesn’t it? Something about writing erotic things adds to one’s erotic nature, I think.
T: I agree. And on a similar note, the more erotica I write the more comfortable I am with the fact that I’m an erotica writer. At first I didn’t want anyone to know – but now I take the opportunity to tell more people and most of them receive it very well.
J: I just love that feeling! I find the reception being positive is true, too.
M: Yes! It’s kind of funny to realize how much apprehension you can have about writing erotica when you first start playing with it. It’s nice to let that go as you develop as a writer.
J: I wrote about that acceptance of myself as an erotica writer back at the end of 2013 – and this year, having been one with it and really truly loving it, I would say the most surprising thing I learned is what a damn work horse I can be. I mean, I know I go at it sometimes, but I’ve had to pull back from working myself to exhaustion a few times. That was a shocker. I’m sure you both can relate to that, too.
T: Absolutely – that was one of my answers – I’ve surprised myself with my sheer doggedness when it comes to getting stuff done!
M: I never would have called myself a workaholic until this past year, but I’ve been surprised, like both of you, by how much it’s actually true. I guess loving your work brings that out!
J: Yes. But one of the things that’s helped is that you both have been around to “talk me down” when I’m taxing myself. I think that’s one of the greatest things we’ve done for one another (besides all the “talking up,” of course).
M: Yeah – that support really has been critical. It’s easy to push too hard, or get too low. Having two partners/friends who can offer that bit of perspective is just invaluable.
T: It is a wonderful thing, and I wouldn’t be without you two! Now, what’s the most interesting or surprising thing you’ve learned about the industry over the course of 2014?
M: For me it was a fairly general realization. I was surprised by how unstable the market has gotten recently, and yet, within that, how many other options writers have. That and how unfailingly supportive other writers are.
T: That was totally going to be my answer – just how fantastic the erotica community is. We might supposedly be competing against each other but every writer I come across is generous with their support.
J: Yes. It’s a tight-knit group – probably the most lovable and delightful group of all the writer groups I’ve worked with. Considering how much flak the genre can get, it’s wonderful to have that support.
T: If we don’t help each other, who will?
T: Now, turning to what we’ve all been writing, tell me each of you, what was your hottest sex scene of the year?
J: I don’t know if I can pick one! One? Hmm…Malin, what’s yours?
M: Hey! Look at you tossing me the ball!
J: It’s a damn hot potato!
M: Well, okay…. Let me see. I’m not sure if it’s my hottest, but one of my favorites is in a story coming out in Best Women’s Erotica 2015. The story is called “Star F*cker” and the heroine has sex with a hot actor in an elevator. I really, seriously loved writing that scene.
J: Oh my god, I love “Star F*cker.” I’ve read this one, people – you’re going to die it’s so good.
T: It was definitely super hot! Let’s just have a couple of sentences to give our readers a little taste…
Click HERE to read the rest of the conversation… And Happy New Year!! xx.M