Bath TelephoneRecently, a good friend reminded me of just how much I love talking dirty – not so much the “I wanna fuck you, baby” sort of dirty talk that you get in a lot of porn, (no disrespect. It just doesn’t do it for me), but rather the really creative, eloquent filth that says more than just, I wanna fuck you; it tells you exactly how and when and where. Museum? Hotel? Shower? Tell me. Alone? In public? Tell me. The devil’s in the details, my friends.

So, I was thinking about what a pleasure it is to turn someone on, and to be turned on, by the use of clever filth. This brought me to thinking about words in general, and how certain words pack an erotic punch while others don’t. There’s a reason you see “cock” much more often than “penis”, and “cunt” much more than “vagina” in erotica. While there’s nothing wrong with “penis” and “vagina”, the images they inspire are a bit more clinical, whereas “cunt” and “cock” imply the full spectrum of recreational uses those body parts can be put to. Which leads me to my point.. or rather, to one of them. Words used well can be almost as sexy as hands on your skin. There is no substitute for physical contact, but words can heighten the intensity of an inevitable fuck, (and I do mean “fuck” and not intercourse). That anticipation is delicious in and of itself.

This leads me to a second point, one that I hadn’t considered before. People who read and write erotica, (myself included), engage in a form of very public dirty talk. After all, talking dirty is what erotica really is – the stringing together of words with the express purpose of turning someone, (in this case, the reader), on. When I work on a story, no matter how emotionally nuanced, everything I write, every word, is designed to build sexual tension, so that when the story reaches it’s climax you’ll want to as well. I want to push those sexy, oh-god, buttons, so it’s a wonderfully satisfying when a reader tells me that a story was hot. If it happens to inspire other emotions as well, then so much the better.

So, thank you to my friend, for reminding me of how sexy and amazing dirty talk is. A nimble tongue and a filthy mind are a terrible thing to waste.. 😉 xxM