For bookish essays and ad hoc reviews, head to my (randomly updated) blog.
The Goblin Market: Writing in the gray area between sex and literature. (Plus, book recommendations!)
Sex in Flash Fiction: Speaker Notes
Sex in Flash Fiction: Sources & Resources
Sex & Culture:
Ownership: On Sexuality & Feminine Relations: Ohe reflexive sense of sexual competition women feel in relation to one another, and how damaging it can be.
Femme Fatales & Dames: A meditation on the roles women have, and continue to play, in TV and film.
Eva Green’s Breast: On the hypocrisy of the MPAA’s ruling against Eva Green’s image in marketing material for Sin City 2.
A Girl’s Guide to Growing Up: On raising a daughter in a sex positive way.
The Slap, or The Intimacy of Violence: On why violence can create its own highly charged sense of intimacy.
In Praise of Quiet: On introversion and the occasional need for quiet.
Debbie Does Dallas & Marries the Man of Her Dreams: On RomComs and Porn: On the unnecessary role that romantic comedies and porn often plays in a couple’s expectations and sexual (un)happiness.
On Slate’s Sexual History Calculator: An unapologetic rant against the notion that the number of partners you’ve had is actually relevant.
On Virginity, or A Case For Not Throwing It Away: In favor of waiting, though not for the reasons you make think.
In Praise of Feminine Things (A Rant): Loving lipstick, heels and lingerie doesn’t make you a tool of the patriarchy.
Little Monsters: On managing jealousy and insecurity in relationships.
How Do I Love Thee: On Comparing Relationships: On motherhood, relationships and the value of asking “how do you love me?” rather than “do you love me best?”